Stop Caring About What Other People Think

When you care too much about what other people think…

You start living out other people’s visions instead of living out your own vision. You do that by:

• Staying at a job because somebody else thinks you should (even though you hate it)

• Staying overweight because someone else thinks dieting is stupid (even though you know you want to be smaller)

• Holding your tongue when you get in confrontations (even though you know good and well the situation won’t go in your favor if you don’t speak up)

And all that stuff adds up to you knowing deep down that you are not being true to yourself.

All because you wanna make other people happy…

Why do you care so much about what others think?

It comes down to 2 things:

1. Being a people pleaser (which is more about not wanting to upset people, than it is about actually trying to please people)

2. Needing to feel accepted

At some point in your life, you learned it wasn’t cool to rock the boat.

Maybe you had a parent or a close family member that was a little toxic.

Or maybe they had strong views on a certain thing, and you always felt like you had to live up to those expectations.

Either way…

It taught you to disregard how you feel and just do what would make that other person happy.

Because if you didn’t..

You had consequences.

And you learned to feel like you always need to be accepted by other people.

The problem is…

That type of thinking is not benefitting you where you are today.

All it’s doing is making your life worse.

Instead of you having your own vision and moving in that direction…

Almost every aspect of your life is the way it is because of what somebody else would say.

At some point, you need to be willing to:

1. Make your own decisions.

2. Create your own path.

Some people will think your path is wrong…

And that’s because they don’t get the vision.

You need to be so focused on your own vision that nobody can stop you from making it your reality.

If you can learn how to create your own vision and stay focused on it (no matter what other people think), you can:

• Become more self assured

• Get more in touch with your authentic voice

• Feel your own values a lot deeper and stand on them

• Start being 1000x more confident in yourself and your ability to make things happen

You’ll think more clearly if you don’t care what people think.

How do you stop caring about what other people think?

There are 3 main things…

1) Learn how to be okay with upsetting people.

Life is all about making decisions.

And sometimes…

The decisions you make will upset some people.

But those people don’t have to deal with the consequences of the decisions you make…

You do.

If you can’t get comfortable with the idea of knowingly upsetting somebody and not caring about it, you need to:

2) Understand that some things are WORTH upsetting people over. Thinks like:

• Your kids

• Your money

• Your mental health

• Your personal space

• Anything that’s truly important to you

If you aren’t willing to upset people over things like that, you’re going to live a very hard life.

The third thing you need to do to stop caring so much about what other people think is:

3) Write down a list of all the things in your life that are worth upsetting people over.

BONUS:

1) Write about a time you did or didn’t do something to avoid upsetting somebody else, and regretted it.

2) Then, explain what you would do if you didn’t care about upsetting that person.

Keep in mind…

Not caring about upsetting somebody does not mean you gotta be an asshole.

You can still make your own decisions and do what’s best for you, while still:

• Treating people with respect

• Being graceful

If you take your time going through these questions, you’ll start to stop caring about what other people think.

And a week from today…

You’ll already be seeing big changes in the way you handle situations.

If you have trouble thinking through this on your own…

I offer coaching services. I can help you:

• Create your own vision for your life

• Set actionable goals to help you achieve it

• Stay motivated and accountable the whole way

So you can:

• Become more self assured

• Get more in touch with your authentic voice

• Feel your own values a lot deeper and stand on them

• Start being 1000x more confident in yourself and your ability to make things happen

Here’s the intake form if you’re interested.